1. Timing is everything: Riding down the highway at 60 MPH isn’t the best time to bring up your dissatisfaction in the bedroom. He’ll feel trapped and we all know what happens when men feel trapped. They ‘yes’ you to death or get defensive. Either way your point will be lost. I have found that a little dirty talk during the act itself works best for all involved. “To the left and harder!” comes out sexy opposes to ball busting.

2. Talk Dirty: Men love it! They need and want to hear that their pleasing you. Don’t get chatty…that’ll kill the mood in no time. The key to getting what you want using dirty talk is easy. First, affirm that whatever he’s doing is good BUT it could be better if he would do ...... After they’ve successfully performed the task you MUST confirm delivery!! Example:

“(Insert name here) I love what you’re doing with your tongue. Lower…right there! (Insert name here) you’re perfect!”.......He’ll think he’s the man.

3. Asking for what you want: Need a little more action in the bed? Wanna try something kinkier but don’t wanna scare him off? First, see tip #1 about timing. Second, mention it casually. If it goes over his head move to the next step. Third, introduce it slowly into the bedroom, let him to see your reaction to it and allow him make the next move on his own. Once he sees how much you enjoy whatever it is he’ll be more amped to give it you. Example:

Let’s just say you want to introduce light restraint, with you being restrained, into your sessions. First, grab a silk scarf or nylon stocking (Be careful. They’re soft but they can do some damage). Second, make eye contact. Third, ask him to do the honors. I can guarantee there’s no way your meaning will be lost on him.

4. Give as well as take: Be open to trying new things with him. Ask him what he wants to you do for/to him and then DO IT! If your mate is anything like my husband then he’ll gladly return the favor. Good luck ladies. I hope this helps.