My Weekend Ranting Reply
- By Tracy Ames
- Published September 26, 2009
Tracy Ames
Mrs. Ames is an international bestselling author of interracial erotic fiction and a former columnist for several newsletters and magazines.
A native of the San Francisco Bay Area, Tracy currently split time between CT & New York City with her husband, children and a host of pets.
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I was replying to our lovely Olga's comment of my blog post from yesterday and it got a bit long....okay it turned into a Tracy Rant. So I decided to post it on the blog instead. Olga is another 'super mom' so take note when she speaks..:)
The Rant Begins:
Bravo Olga! See, you understand, you nailed it. It's not that you don't want to be involved however there are more important things going on outside of the nursery and our husband's board rooms.
Outside of my life memberships, I also belong to a few social organizations including Oxfam International and Kiva. And my daughter belongs to Dr. Betty Shabazz Delta Academy and Emerging Scholars. Hey I’m trying to raise the next world leader over here!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m a 'super mom' but being a 'super mom' means that you are blueprint for your kids to follow. You are the platform from which they jump to became who they will be. If they only see you sitting around singing the praises of others and swapping mommy stories, where will they value be placed when they’re in your shoes? Will they kowtow to their husbands and think little of themselves? And to the boys, will they expect their wives to be husk?
More importantly, how will they get a sense of who you were before they came along? How will they connect with you?
A couple of people have questioned occupation of choice since I have an impressionable preteen. To those I say, she sees me doing what I love regardless how others live their lives. I’m not my career. I’m not a mother. I’m not an activist. I’m not a wife.
I am all of these things.
There has to be a fine balance here folks. The maternal instinct is strong so it’s not going anywhere. But there has to be more substance to you. I want my daughter to see that I’m multidimensional, flaws and all. And it’s okay if she’s the same way.
That’s what makes us women.
Rant Over......
I was replying to our lovely Olga's comment of my blog post from yesterday and it got a bit long....okay it turned into a Tracy Rant. So I decided to post it on the blog instead. Olga is another 'super mom' so take note when she speaks..:)
The Rant Begins:
Bravo Olga! See, you understand, you nailed it. It's not that you don't want to be involved however there are more important things going on outside of the nursery and our husband's board rooms.
Outside of my life memberships, I also belong to a few social organizations including Oxfam International and Kiva. And my daughter belongs to Dr. Betty Shabazz Delta Academy and Emerging Scholars. Hey I’m trying to raise the next world leader over here!
Don’t get me wrong, I’m a 'super mom' but being a 'super mom' means that you are blueprint for your kids to follow. You are the platform from which they jump to became who they will be. If they only see you sitting around singing the praises of others and swapping mommy stories, where will they value be placed when they’re in your shoes? Will they kowtow to their husbands and think little of themselves? And to the boys, will they expect their wives to be husk?
More importantly, how will they get a sense of who you were before they came along? How will they connect with you?
A couple of people have questioned occupation of choice since I have an impressionable preteen. To those I say, she sees me doing what I love regardless how others live their lives. I’m not my career. I’m not a mother. I’m not an activist. I’m not a wife.
I am all of these things.
There has to be a fine balance here folks. The maternal instinct is strong so it’s not going anywhere. But there has to be more substance to you. I want my daughter to see that I’m multidimensional, flaws and all. And it’s okay if she’s the same way.
That’s what makes us women.
Rant Over......
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2 Responses to "My Weekend Ranting Reply" 
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said this on 26 Sep 2009 5:00:49 PM CDT
well said....
i don't need to belong to a group to know I am doing a damn good job as mom while getting my doctorate and still have a life of my own. it is hard..but i want my sons to know that women are not just for breeding etc I think some ppl use those groups as a platform to seek some sort of validation or approval...because they are dissatisfied with their lives. this is a bit related..but I want to know if people take adult vacations..ie...go on the family vacation (like disney) with the kids..but ensure that as a couple, mom and dad go some where ALONE...at least a week annually. And I don't mean stay home...go travel somewhere...a road trip. Just to make sure when u r 50 u r not wondering who de hell is this person sleeping in the bed with u... |
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said this on 26 Sep 2009 9:35:02 PM CDT
Amen! You're correct. Some women use those groups as platforms which is sad. They really should do something else with their time.
I think we get so caught up in day to day life that we begin to view our spouses as objects rather then the people we once dated. Then, like you said, we wake up and don't know the person we've shared our bed with. While living overseas, Greg and I spent time apart when his job sent him to France (a year). Eva and I stayed behind in Switzerland. He came home every weekend but that was tough...mainly because I 'like' my husband. If we weren't married I'd still like him. Does that make sense? Okay it doesn't but it's true. Yes, adult vacations are a HUGE boost to relationships. Just the two of you..."seeing" each other for a whole week. One of two things is bound to happen. Either you'll grow closer or realize that you've married a complete wanker....either way it should prove eventful and I'm gonna need pictures..:) |