I had to share this little story with you all. I cried laughing.


I’m a Kinkster; for the most part I’m a Domina however I do switch. I help other Kinksters prepare for scenes, act as a Safety and even educate folks from time-to-time. I’m more of a Sydney-type….the hands off “don’t touch me!” type. I’m not into the hardcore acts, it’s just not me but if that’s your thing then more power to you and keep hope alive.


Yesterday I went to meet with a potential “play date” arranged by a close friend (get your minds out of the gutter! It’s not sexual). So, I dress the part; O-ring on left hand and wristband on right hand.


Later on that night, I’m chatting with Mark P. aka The American Mark about a piece he’s writing and decide I’d better hit the mall before they close. Now, I have to say this…Mark asked if I was still ‘dressed’. I told him that I was wearing my wristband and O-ring. I sorta heard the question mark in his tone but he sidestepped the issue as a proper Southern gentleman should.


I hang up my call and finish my shopping. I think to myself, “Ah, Target I’ll pop in there before I go home.” I walk and shop…shop and walk and head for the check out, where two late teen—early 20ish Afro-American female cashiers are standing. I see them eyeing my ring and wristband. They say nothing and neither do I. Finally…

Cashier #1: Oh I love your ring! Can I see it?

Me: Thank you. (I hold it up for them to see)

Cashier #2: It’s pretty. What is it?

Me: It’s an O-ring or Ring of O. It’s used in Kink as a way for other Kinksters identify whether you’re a Top or bottom. Tops wear it on their left hand…bottoms on their right.

End of conservation right? WRONG!!

Cashier #2: I like you bracelet. What does it say?

Me *deadpan*: Mistress

Cashier #1: Damn!

Cashier #2: Oh you fo’ reeeaalll huuuuuh?!
Both cashiers gave me the deer in headlights look.


I smiled and left. On the way out, I ring Mark P. back and relayed the story because I’m crying laughing. He yells, “I knew it!!! I would have loved to seen their faces!”


Classic just classic…..