My Daughter is Growing Up...:(
- By Tracy Ames
- Published November 27, 2009
Tracy Ames
Mrs. Ames is an international bestselling author of interracial erotic fiction and a former columnist for several newsletters and magazines.
A native of the San Francisco Bay Area, Tracy currently split time between CT & New York City with her husband, children and a host of pets.
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My daughter Eva is a beautiful intelligent young lady who’s mature beyond her years and a daddy’s girl to boot. You know how the doctor places the new born on the mom’s chest and then takes it away to be cleaned up? Well Eva squirmed around and cried until they placed her in Greg’s arms. To this day they eat sleep and breathe one another.
Eva is a preteen and, like her mom, has “blossomed” early and is getting lots of unwanted attention from older boys/men. This attention makes her extremely uncomfortable. That is until yesterday….
When went to dinner at one of the senior partner’s house and as soon as we walked in Eva and a young man named Christopher, the grandson of the host, connected! He’s very handsome, well mannered, and clever and has a great relationship with his parents. They talked for a long time, took Clinton outside to play and talked more over the dinner table...mostly about music and travel.
The problem is Christopher turned sixteen two months ago. Needless to say Greg wasn’t a happy camper.
Anyway, we’re getting ready to leave and the kids exchange phone numbers and email addresses…and then Christopher asked Greg if Eva could go to the movies with his family tonight (being Friday). I thought Greg was going to explode (in a WASPy reserved way).
Greg told Christopher to call him tomorrow (being today) for his answer. Since then Greg has been fried! Eva’s been pleading with him all day. He’s having a difficult time telling her no but at the same time feels she is too young. I know my kid; she’s not into boys at all! She’s not one of those “I’m going to the mall with my BFF and we’re gonna meet boys” kind of gal. No, you’ll find her playing Beatles Rock Band or underneath her dad.
Here’s my thing…is it a date or just her going to the movies with their family? I don’t have a problem with her going with the family but I’d never consent to them going alone.
Eva is a preteen and, like her mom, has “blossomed” early and is getting lots of unwanted attention from older boys/men. This attention makes her extremely uncomfortable. That is until yesterday….
When went to dinner at one of the senior partner’s house and as soon as we walked in Eva and a young man named Christopher, the grandson of the host, connected! He’s very handsome, well mannered, and clever and has a great relationship with his parents. They talked for a long time, took Clinton outside to play and talked more over the dinner table...mostly about music and travel.
The problem is Christopher turned sixteen two months ago. Needless to say Greg wasn’t a happy camper.
Anyway, we’re getting ready to leave and the kids exchange phone numbers and email addresses…and then Christopher asked Greg if Eva could go to the movies with his family tonight (being Friday). I thought Greg was going to explode (in a WASPy reserved way).
Greg told Christopher to call him tomorrow (being today) for his answer. Since then Greg has been fried! Eva’s been pleading with him all day. He’s having a difficult time telling her no but at the same time feels she is too young. I know my kid; she’s not into boys at all! She’s not one of those “I’m going to the mall with my BFF and we’re gonna meet boys” kind of gal. No, you’ll find her playing Beatles Rock Band or underneath her dad.
Here’s my thing…is it a date or just her going to the movies with their family? I don’t have a problem with her going with the family but I’d never consent to them going alone.
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9 Responses to "My Daughter is Growing Up...:(" 
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said this on 27 Nov 2009 3:24:00 PM CDT
Tracy thats a hard one... Personally I grew up with the "chaperone" ideology... I never went out on dates alone... Always had my lil sister/cousin/brother along for any dates until I got into college... If she really wants to go then maybe you and Greg should say YES but take her to the movies and meet up with the family... You and Greg can see another movie and she and this 16 yr old (yikes - thats a big age difference) can see another movie... As long as she knows you guys are close by it should be all good...
Thats just my suggestion... Happy Holidays Chica! Marci |
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said this on 27 Nov 2009 4:37:04 PM CDT
I'm with Marci on this Tracy. You and Greg should definitely join the party at the movies. I know Eva is intelligent so tell her why you two of you are going.
Not that you don't trust her...you don't trust the "sixteen-year-old". No, but seriously, explain to her just what you are feeling. She is too young to go out on a "date" family or not unescorted. I'm sure she will get it and won't be upset because she is getting to go. But you watch that "sixteen-year-old" Tracy! Watch him like a hawk! Be sure to tell him that Eva has a crazy A$% aunt in Texas that likes to go "huntin". LOL! Also, tell "G" I said take a deep breath. She will always be "Daddy's Little Girl" no matter what. |
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said this on 27 Nov 2009 6:10:56 PM CDT
I am with the ladies Tracy. Christoper is probably a wonderful young man, but if you guys decided to provide back-up it will probably help everyone out. You, Greg, or both of you can begin to get a look at how your daughter will begin to frame herself as she starts the very beginnings of dating and she will know that she has parental back up. No matter how self assured she maybe in beginning this new phase, knowing her parents are in the building or in the last row of the movie theater lets her know that her that if she needs you, you are in place.
This way you may not have to talk Greg off the ledge the whole time she is out as well, it you are on the premises. LOL |
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said this on 27 Nov 2009 6:22:49 PM CDT
She's a preteen. Even if she is going with the family I feel she is still to young for that even, so like the others just make it a family affair. He maybe wonderful but you only saw him for a short time so you really do not know him!!
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said this on 27 Nov 2009 6:53:16 PM CDT
Thanks guys. We decided to have them over for dinner tomorrow night. Eva isn't thrilled about out being able to go with them tonight but I think it had more to do with the fact she thought Greg and I didn't trust her. We trust her. Hell she lived in Switzerland alone...that's trust!!!
Anyway, she's curled up in the chair with Greg so it's all good. Eva is very mature, we told her that we liked Christopher but she was too young but we're having them over for dinner. She understood...she did most of the talking. It's the attention she receives from boy/men that freak her out, it scares her to death...so we really didn't have to beat her over the head with the "You're too young" "We know the family but we don't him" speech. She gets it. Seriously, she thought that we were going to group her in with those fast-tail little hussies you see flirting with grown men. I know my child and that's not her...Greg has raised her right. Stephanie, during this next phase of her life I'll have to keep G under control. He's a nut case. I'll keep the crazy aunties on backup. |
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said this on 27 Nov 2009 8:19:19 PM CDT
well about You & your young time, how it could happen for your first going to the movies!?!
often the same dilema, when could we let child alone like a soon adult face to life... our generation, those who still not have 40 years old...oops, we see that the actual society is less partioning, maybe the youngest always give us to be oldest by our brake for them...but we would want to live at their age this actual time so... so traditions are our buoy or swiss knife for urgency answer...lol courage for Tracy & Greg, welcome to your questions...for soon some answers by both...of course! |
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said this on 28 Nov 2009 3:15:43 PM CDT
Yikes! My daughter is a pre-teen & so far so good. I haven't had to cross that bridge yet. My son is a teenager & I ALWAYS ALWAYS ALWAYS tell him to watch out for his younger sister. So if (like how I say 'if' even though I know 'when' is what I should be using) my daughter starts dating (when she is much much much, hmmm maybe college older), my husband & I will be sending Big Bro along.
But having dinner at your house seems to be the best solution. Greg will be at ease since the young man is in his line of sight. Have a delightful time! |
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said this on 28 Nov 2009 4:31:46 PM CDT
Eva has the body of a sixteen year old, the maturity of a twenty-five year old, and the heart of a 13 year old. But the one thing I LOVE about her being a Daddy's girl is that Greg has shown her how a man is supposed to carry himself. All of the "Yo baby what yo name is?" crap doesn't cut it.
They arrived at 8:00am for a day of golf, croquet and squash. I totally forgot about Greg's family outing until everyone starting showing up early this morning. Eva and Christopher played squash and Rock Band....but their fathers didn't let them out of their sights. But G didn't have to watch her too closely...she sat US down and said she was too young to be alone with boys and that she'd be uncomfortable if we weren't there. She's a smart girl...damnit, wish she had and older brother!! Alright I have to get downstairs for dinner. |
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said this on 29 Nov 2009 2:01:25 AM CDT
Wow, i have been missing for weeks now. Seems like i'm missing a lot. It's good to see that all ends well. Eva is a mature young lady, she knows how to handle herself well. Sounds like Greg is starting to realize that is little girl ain't so little anymore. He'll be fine, fathers go nuts when it comes to their princesses. I'm 26, my father swears i'm 15....
Now, i like Eva more than you now Tracy, she plays Rockband...my kind of girl. I'm a game nerd, Randy got me an "early chritsmas " game called " Call of duty:modern warfare. Kind of like an " ass kiss" present for saying "i'm sorry" . Anyway, i've been playing with people from all around the world. |
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