Multi-Dimensional Questions, None I Will Attempt to Tackle
- By Tracy Ames
- Published January 10, 2010
Tracy Ames
Mrs. Ames is an international bestselling author of interracial erotic fiction and a former columnist for several newsletters and magazines.
A native of the San Francisco Bay Area, Tracy currently split time between CT & New York City with her husband, children and a host of pets.
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I was trolling through the mountains of emails and came across a few asking for dating advice….more importantly, how to find/meet White men who’re open to dating interracially?....and Is there really a difference when dating outside of your race?
My knee-jerk answer was “I dunno!” and “Maybe. I married a WASP, there’s a huge difference in marrying a WASP” (More to come on that subject later). After further thought I realized, on some level, my reply was disingenuous. I’m no relationship therapist or sex-expert however, over the next few days, I will offer my humble opinions and that’s what this is: my humble opinions.
These are multi-dimensional questions that can’t be properly answered unless one addresses each individual area: Physical, mental/emotional, monetary, spiritual, and scholastic. I’ll attempt to tackle none of these. These are, as stated previously, my opinions.
Quick sidenote: These opinions are offered to mentally stable women not those riding the Jesus train or the Crazy train. So if you plan on screwing your way through great swaths of White men looking for salvation on the slippery tip of his penis or in tight-eyed hopes of scoring a “Captain Save-a-Hoe” take my advice and move along. All sane and productive women please keep reading.
Get Out and Mingle: You be surprise how many men have gotten politically savvy since Obama came to office. Get involved with a local politically organization (go Dem) or “Meet up” groups. You may find White men who’re democratically astute may be down with the swirl. I worked on the Obama campaign for a year and a half….trust me ladies when I say there are superbly educated gorgeous White men with a hankering for chocolate. However, if you don’t meet Mr. Right, what’s the worst that come happen? You’d meet new interesting people from different walks of life and become better informed.
Live music/poetry venues: These places are also a great way to meet open-minded men. Why these place work? These places tend to be laid back, no one putting on airs or trying too hard to impress you. Worst case scenario you’ll have a good time. If you live in the tri-state area or Greenwich, CT. be sure to checkout Thataway Café. It’s a local watering hole with great bands from folk to blues, awesome food, and they’re very “us” friendly. The blues and Jazz nights are fantastic for meeting up. Be warned, the food portions are huge and the drinks are cheap!
On-line Dating: I know what some of you are thinking but I have a few friends who have used this medium with grand results. I believe getting to know someone outside of their physical presence and taking things slowly was key to their success. I mean, come on, if a woman or male declares their undying love for you in the first few days of chatting online, that’s a hint and a half that the “daddy’s hat has fallen off” and it’s time to move on.
Art or Charity Events: Ladies, I’m involved with several charities that are caulked full of well to do White men looking for Black woman to date/marry. Get out there and mix it up! For references checkout some of my pages or organizations of Face Book or Google “Meet up” groups in your local area.
Wine Tasting: Wine tasting are a great place to meet single men. Most wine shops have monthly tastings as well as clubs you can join. "Twisted Vine" in Fairfield CT. is a great place to mix and they have their own Meetup group! If you’re not wine savvy who cares! It doesn’t matter, the hosts are there to walk you through it (they secretly love it!). Grab a couple of your girlfriends and make a night of it. By the end everyone is pretty pissed and exchanging numbers and email addresses anyway. Be looking at a call…I’m not kidding, they love Black women.
I’ll chat more about this tomorrow. Please let me know what you think or/and add your suggestions. Chat soon!
Tracy
My knee-jerk answer was “I dunno!” and “Maybe. I married a WASP, there’s a huge difference in marrying a WASP” (More to come on that subject later). After further thought I realized, on some level, my reply was disingenuous. I’m no relationship therapist or sex-expert however, over the next few days, I will offer my humble opinions and that’s what this is: my humble opinions.
These are multi-dimensional questions that can’t be properly answered unless one addresses each individual area: Physical, mental/emotional, monetary, spiritual, and scholastic. I’ll attempt to tackle none of these. These are, as stated previously, my opinions.
Quick sidenote: These opinions are offered to mentally stable women not those riding the Jesus train or the Crazy train. So if you plan on screwing your way through great swaths of White men looking for salvation on the slippery tip of his penis or in tight-eyed hopes of scoring a “Captain Save-a-Hoe” take my advice and move along. All sane and productive women please keep reading.
Get Out and Mingle: You be surprise how many men have gotten politically savvy since Obama came to office. Get involved with a local politically organization (go Dem) or “Meet up” groups. You may find White men who’re democratically astute may be down with the swirl. I worked on the Obama campaign for a year and a half….trust me ladies when I say there are superbly educated gorgeous White men with a hankering for chocolate. However, if you don’t meet Mr. Right, what’s the worst that come happen? You’d meet new interesting people from different walks of life and become better informed.
Live music/poetry venues: These places are also a great way to meet open-minded men. Why these place work? These places tend to be laid back, no one putting on airs or trying too hard to impress you. Worst case scenario you’ll have a good time. If you live in the tri-state area or Greenwich, CT. be sure to checkout Thataway Café. It’s a local watering hole with great bands from folk to blues, awesome food, and they’re very “us” friendly. The blues and Jazz nights are fantastic for meeting up. Be warned, the food portions are huge and the drinks are cheap!
On-line Dating: I know what some of you are thinking but I have a few friends who have used this medium with grand results. I believe getting to know someone outside of their physical presence and taking things slowly was key to their success. I mean, come on, if a woman or male declares their undying love for you in the first few days of chatting online, that’s a hint and a half that the “daddy’s hat has fallen off” and it’s time to move on.
Art or Charity Events: Ladies, I’m involved with several charities that are caulked full of well to do White men looking for Black woman to date/marry. Get out there and mix it up! For references checkout some of my pages or organizations of Face Book or Google “Meet up” groups in your local area.
Wine Tasting: Wine tasting are a great place to meet single men. Most wine shops have monthly tastings as well as clubs you can join. "Twisted Vine" in Fairfield CT. is a great place to mix and they have their own Meetup group! If you’re not wine savvy who cares! It doesn’t matter, the hosts are there to walk you through it (they secretly love it!). Grab a couple of your girlfriends and make a night of it. By the end everyone is pretty pissed and exchanging numbers and email addresses anyway. Be looking at a call…I’m not kidding, they love Black women.
I’ll chat more about this tomorrow. Please let me know what you think or/and add your suggestions. Chat soon!
Tracy
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3 Responses to "Multi-Dimensional Questions, None I Will Attempt to Tackle" 
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said this on 11 Jan 2010 5:58:35 PM CDT
Myself and other one of my co-workers get hit on all the time by the white, latin, one co-worker was invite out by this asian man..My Deputy Director say the all of the above pay her no attention because she's too white. She's latina but looks white..I told her it's all about the chocolate and the boobs..I noticed most of the men that were checking us out were from Greece, Russia, France, Italy anywhere other then the US.
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said this on 11 Jan 2010 10:11:10 AM CDT
Oh yeah, white Dems loooove some chocolate. I'm getting harassed at work, vanilla hunks loooove some Heidi. Lol
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said this on 11 Jan 2010 2:31:31 PM CDT
I know! We worked for Obama for a year and a half and there were White willing to beg Sisters to give them a shot....Not just sex but an actual relationship. Black women need to get out there.
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