@ Eugenia, a college age person should have a certain amount of responsibility NOT to get themselves into unnecessary debt. It's a matter of rearing and later on putting that into practice.
I would NEVER be with anyone, college age or older who doesn't have the foresight to be frugal, ESPECIALLY, if their circumstances warrant it. Such a person sends the message: "I don't care about me, so obviously I'll care even less about you". Not relationship material......now if he was Viggo Mortenson (he's the only older man I find yummy) though, might have to think about just screwing his brains out and then dumping him...........

But, what if I me, he made some mistakes in his younger years. I cannot say I was fiscally responsible while I was in college or even after. I cannot be made because someone made a mistake when they were younger. We all make mistakes. Now, if you haven't learned from the mistake is one thing but to do as Maya Angelou says 'when you knew better, you did better' is enough. I give some mercy, but that's because I want some mercy. I can't say I was super smart about money and made some mistakes but I learned. Now if you made the mistake and are still making this mistake then that's another story. I'm 38 years old and I've have so hard bought lessons, but those are the best kind, those you don't forget. I can't be perfect, I can't ask for perfection but you just can't be walking around like a chicken with your head cut off either. Now, this is little compared to some women who are willing to run down the aisle with someone who's been in jail and more than once, now there's a rant. LOL.

I totally agree, are men that. They are providers because that's the way they are programmed by biology and society. I'm just saying if he's made a mistake and been irresponsible because we all have when we were younger. I could tell some stories of my irresponsibility but I've decided those things are going to grave with me. LOL. But if you'v made a mistake, learned from it, and have decided not to repeat it. I can cut you some slack. But if you're on the path of destruction, we will not be walking that hand and hand as fools or the blind leading the deaf, dumb and stupid. My state is community property so his debt is mine unless we get divorced and then the judge can order for you to take it back in the decree.

Erica, it's tough when your blueprint for financal stability is off tilt. But it happens. I know people who found themselves in similar situations; having to learn a different way after being raised another.

And you're absolutely corect. Med school, like law schools, check your credit as a way of measuring your maturity and level of commitment. Good luck with your studies and keep up the good work. Make us proud!!

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