Please Watch Your Kids On Social Media Sites
- By Tracy Ames
- Published August 18, 2010
Tracy Ames
Mrs. Ames is an international bestselling author of interracial erotic fiction and a former columnist for several newsletters and magazines.
A native of the San Francisco Bay Area, Tracy currently split time between CT & New York City with her husband, children and a host of pets.
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I’m speechless. I even know where to begin. In all honesty, I don’t know who to blame or if blame lies with one person. It seems like a comedy of errors on everyone’s part.
Here’s the cast of this follie so you can follow along. All are friends on and off FB (names changed to protect the stupid):
Mike: Greg's colleague, father of Susie, partner hopeful
Eva: Our kid, daughter of a partner
Susie: Daughter of Mike, partner hopeful
Christopher: Eva’s ‘friend’, Grandson of the senior partner, son of a partner
Bella: Daughter of a partner
Skip: Son of a partner
Mike, has been working towards partnership for two years. It seemed a little strange that it was taking so long to confirm him since Greg’s confirmation only took a year, but everyone shrugged it off.
Greg and Mike are friendly but he’s not one of the guys you’ll see hanging out at house. Eva and Mike’s daughter, Susie, are good friends. A few months ago Eva came to Greg and said Susie was posting very personal information about her family on Facebook. Understand Greg monitors Eva’s FB & Twitter accounts like a hawk with her full knowledge (Too many of her friends have been stalked, she's no fool!).
At the time we blew it off. But she kept bring it up again and again. And then Christopher brought it up! Yesterday Greg got the news. Not only was Mike not making partner but he’s being fired.
Like Eva said, months ago Susie began posting rambling notes on FB about her family….very personal damning sort of stuff…on which she’d tag her friends. These notes talked about affairs, private financial problems, health issues, arguments & rants from Mike about certain colleagues (these kids parents & Grandfather), and a host of other very detailed things you wouldn’t want ANYONE to know much less leak out when you’re up for partner in one of the old firms who value loyalty over money. From what we read, the other kids were telling her to chill out because their parents read their stuff.
Long story short, the kids’ folks monitor their accounts as well, came across the rambling notes, and sat back and watched the smoke rise thinking Mike would hang himself. Well, if you give people enough rope, they will. And he did. He was discussing clients’ private matters with his wife and others. You can’t do that especially with the clients their represent.
Anyway, via Susie, Mike gave the firm the ammo they needed and now he’s unemployed and broke. It’s kind of his fault. First, he shouldn’t have opened his mouth. Second, he should’ve been monitoring Susie social media activity. Third, he shouldn’t rant, in detail, in front of his kids. Four, he should’ve raised her not to talk about family business in the street. My folks would’ve kicked my ass if I thought about talking about the stuff she mentioned.
That girl came back and told it all!! In graphic detail…with info only he would’ve known.

They came over for BC’s birthday party. That night Susie posted a note stating that Mike called us low class because we hired a local hole-in-the wall to cater the party. Um, how is pouring money into a damn good local mom & pop low class? Now the folks who’ve never had their food are flocking to the place and using them to cater their functions. How is this low class?
Back in December she wrote about Mike trashing Christopher’s Grandfather (senior partner) for inviting ‘the help’ to his Christmas party. I won’t go into detail but you can imagine what ___lover, worthless___, “how can he rub elbows with ‘those’ people”…means.
Quick Rant: By no means is Greg’s firm one of the good guys. They’re the ones you don’t want to go up against. However, it's an old and very diverse firm. Did Mike really think the partners would be cool with him making semi-racist comments in the freakin’ open when they already had their suspicions about him?
Whatever. From Greg’s accounts, Mike was/is a damn good attorney even though he leaked his clients information. Luckily, the info didn't go any further than it had. I feel bad for his family. I don’t like to see people suffer needlessly but we all make choices. I wish them the best. Some parents may look at us as being strict or over-protective but when Greg created Eva's accounts, he locked that shit down tighter than Fort Knox. We trust Eva, we don't trust folks on the net!
Let this blog-zilla serve as a warning. You never know what your kids are talking about on these social media sites. What you talk about in the car can end up as public knowledge seconds later.
Here’s the cast of this follie so you can follow along. All are friends on and off FB (names changed to protect the stupid):
Mike: Greg's colleague, father of Susie, partner hopeful
Eva: Our kid, daughter of a partner
Susie: Daughter of Mike, partner hopeful
Christopher: Eva’s ‘friend’, Grandson of the senior partner, son of a partner
Bella: Daughter of a partner
Skip: Son of a partner
Mike, has been working towards partnership for two years. It seemed a little strange that it was taking so long to confirm him since Greg’s confirmation only took a year, but everyone shrugged it off.
Greg and Mike are friendly but he’s not one of the guys you’ll see hanging out at house. Eva and Mike’s daughter, Susie, are good friends. A few months ago Eva came to Greg and said Susie was posting very personal information about her family on Facebook. Understand Greg monitors Eva’s FB & Twitter accounts like a hawk with her full knowledge (Too many of her friends have been stalked, she's no fool!).
At the time we blew it off. But she kept bring it up again and again. And then Christopher brought it up! Yesterday Greg got the news. Not only was Mike not making partner but he’s being fired.
Like Eva said, months ago Susie began posting rambling notes on FB about her family….very personal damning sort of stuff…on which she’d tag her friends. These notes talked about affairs, private financial problems, health issues, arguments & rants from Mike about certain colleagues (these kids parents & Grandfather), and a host of other very detailed things you wouldn’t want ANYONE to know much less leak out when you’re up for partner in one of the old firms who value loyalty over money. From what we read, the other kids were telling her to chill out because their parents read their stuff.
Long story short, the kids’ folks monitor their accounts as well, came across the rambling notes, and sat back and watched the smoke rise thinking Mike would hang himself. Well, if you give people enough rope, they will. And he did. He was discussing clients’ private matters with his wife and others. You can’t do that especially with the clients their represent.
Anyway, via Susie, Mike gave the firm the ammo they needed and now he’s unemployed and broke. It’s kind of his fault. First, he shouldn’t have opened his mouth. Second, he should’ve been monitoring Susie social media activity. Third, he shouldn’t rant, in detail, in front of his kids. Four, he should’ve raised her not to talk about family business in the street. My folks would’ve kicked my ass if I thought about talking about the stuff she mentioned.
That girl came back and told it all!! In graphic detail…with info only he would’ve known.
They came over for BC’s birthday party. That night Susie posted a note stating that Mike called us low class because we hired a local hole-in-the wall to cater the party. Um, how is pouring money into a damn good local mom & pop low class? Now the folks who’ve never had their food are flocking to the place and using them to cater their functions. How is this low class?
Back in December she wrote about Mike trashing Christopher’s Grandfather (senior partner) for inviting ‘the help’ to his Christmas party. I won’t go into detail but you can imagine what ___lover, worthless___, “how can he rub elbows with ‘those’ people”…means.
Quick Rant: By no means is Greg’s firm one of the good guys. They’re the ones you don’t want to go up against. However, it's an old and very diverse firm. Did Mike really think the partners would be cool with him making semi-racist comments in the freakin’ open when they already had their suspicions about him?
Whatever. From Greg’s accounts, Mike was/is a damn good attorney even though he leaked his clients information. Luckily, the info didn't go any further than it had. I feel bad for his family. I don’t like to see people suffer needlessly but we all make choices. I wish them the best. Some parents may look at us as being strict or over-protective but when Greg created Eva's accounts, he locked that shit down tighter than Fort Knox. We trust Eva, we don't trust folks on the net!
Let this blog-zilla serve as a warning. You never know what your kids are talking about on these social media sites. What you talk about in the car can end up as public knowledge seconds later.
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15 Responses to "Please Watch Your Kids On Social Media Sites" 
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 1:20:21 PM CDT
I couldn't help but LMAO (see I don't drink and your updates are my daily alcohol consumption) I guess the parents have more blame to carry than anyone else. The way I look at it what makes Susie and Eva different? why isn't Eva posting things on her FB page? Simply her parents don't discuss grown folks business in front of her and she was raise to know right from wrong. Good Job Ames' (parents sometimes get the burden when their kids are no good but not commended when the kids turn out great and beat the nature -v-nurture battle)
I work as a after school play leader in a rural area in the UK. My son and I are the only "colored" (that's the term most frequently used here) that some have ever seen (I didn't think at this day and age people were so naive). some of those kid are very privileged and have attitudes that they at automatically entitle to special preferential treatment anyhow from some of these rugrats I know who's been sleeping with who, which housekeeper isn't only keeping house but servicing the men, i know who are the hidden alcoholics, the sexual freaks, who's broke (still trying to keep up with the jones') and may lose their home, i know who the gamblers are. and i could only imagine what they are saying about me behind close door but believe me I can care less it takes someone who matters to me to get any feelings out of me. Please keep me entertain because I can't kill these kids ;-) |
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 1:59:39 PM CDT
Judy, these kids are killing me. Greg and I are spending the day going through Eva's FB account. She's so plain Jane as are most of her crew. There were a couple of questionable folks that Greg had to email her about but they turned out to be the older siblings of her friends. Greg almost lost his mind!
The notes Susie was posting are a good example of the things you mentioned. These kids are spreading business they shouldn't know. They're not the average kids....they're very self entitled. They don't have to take responsiblity for their actions so the privacy of others means nothing to them. Preferential treatment is an understatement! These kids need the fear of God slapped into them. What I'm finding refreshing as I go through Susie's posts are the comments from the other kids telling her to cool it. We NEVER would've done this. What's wrong with these kids? BTW, don't you just love being 'colored'? lol! |
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 4:46:26 PM CDT
I missed this site. I haven't been on here in a while so I’m getting myself caught up on your stories. This one is just sad. *smh* Who was this girl ranting and raving to? And for what purpose? I don’t get it. I understand that you shouldn’t disclose certain information with your children, but my parents shared a lot with me, however I knew to keep my mouth shut. Then again I grew up in a lower middle class family so I wasn’t really privileged. I had to grow up fast. Maybe that’s this girl’s problem…she’s spoiled and unfortunately not the brightest. Is Susie and your daughter still friends? And if so has it put a strain on their relationship?
In a way it’s good that you found out how this man really felt about your family. I bet he was all smiles whenever you spoke to him…phony people usually are. |
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 6:14:54 PM CDT
Good to have you back with us. The girl was talking to the children and Grandchildren of her father's colleagues...more importantly, his betters. From what we know of her, she's lonely. She was probably just looking for attention, talking about stuff she thought would make her seem cool. She should've known to shut up when the other kids were telling her to be quiet.
We grew up in an open house and so does Eva but we knew how to keep our lips sealed. These kids have grown up fast because they're expected to carry themselves like adults in public. But these are still very young, young sheltered kids. If they don't have close relationships with their parents or nannies, then they look for others to fill the void. She and Eva are still friends. Eva's back in Switzerland but she received a post from Susie this morning apologizing and hoping she didn't get in trouble. Parents need to watch their kids. Mike is as phony as they come. All smiles but behind your back he's stabbing you. *smh* |
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 5:11:46 PM CDT
Wow! I wish I could manage to feel sorry for this guy I really don't because he has no one to blame but himself. If he was going to be dumb enough to go running off his mouth like that around his daughter. He should have thaught her the importance of keeping her mouth shut about whats dicusssed in private in their home. Oh! well since he didn't keep a muzzle on his daughter big mouth. I guess he'll be seeing what "low class" is all about first hand! He pretty much got what he deserved. I mean really why was he not monitoring her online activity and just letting her run her mouth. *smh* Oh
Growing up when my parents or other adults were having a conversation I was told to go to another room. If by chance I did happen to overhear something private I dam sure knew to keep to myself if I didn't want to catch a beatdown. lol! |
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 5:43:36 PM CDT
Crystal, I haven't been on FB today because we've been going through Eva's FB page. Girl, you should see some of the stuff little Miss Susie was talking about! The other kids were telling her to hush but she didn't leave.
Here's the problem: she doesn't have a close affectionate relationship with her folks so she looks to other kids (the kids of his colleagues) for validation. Those kids were freakin' out! Christopher even blocked her post, lol. They're not dumb kids, they've been raised around one another....you don't talk about shit! I do feel sorry for her. She's young and didn't see the harm it would cause. Her parents should've been monitoring her. She was lonely. But we would've gotten our teeth kicked in. LOL! |
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 6:17:16 PM CDT
Girl I don't even want to know what would have happend to me. If I would caused my father to loose his job cause of my big mouth. I meam how does he even explain this when he tries go interview with another firm? You know they're going to aske him why he was fired.
I do feel bad for her also. It 's realy not her fault her parent did teach her any better. |
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 8:37:47 PM CDT
Ok! You nailed it. How is he going to explain his way out of this? He leaked client info and trashed everyone at the firm...including the senior partner.
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 8:08:09 PM CDT
This is sooo true...Thanks for the information. I felt sorry for that family reading about them.
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 8:34:04 PM CDT
Moni, you're more than welcome. If I could shout it from the hills, I would. Sometimes we give children too much credit...they're smart but still need direction. I feel sorry for the family as a whole....it'll be tough to find a job now...if he doesn't loose his license.
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 9:33:13 PM CDT
You are so right. Even if he does somehow mange to keep his license. What firm is going to want to hire him after what he did? It's will definately be a rough time for his family. I feel bad for his daughter. she probally feels terrible right now. I hope her parents made her shut down her facebook and twitter accounts.
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 9:51:38 PM CDT
Hell no! Her page is still up. Greg and I have been combing it most of the day to see if there was anything that the other kids could've gotten into. Thankfully, they used common sense.
From what Eva said, Susie's in a bad place. Her folks aren't exactly the warmest people under normal circumstances...I imagine she's ready to hang herself. Mike is toast. |
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 10:04:37 PM CDT
Well all I can say is dayum. I always think people post way too much on FB including talking about their jobs that they hate, how they are globetrotting around the world and no one is at home. I am not sure who I feel sorry for in this situation. I would hate to be a child and possibly feel responsible for my father losing his job, even though he shouldn't have been talking about clients in front of his family. Although my daughter probably hears a lot at home, when we talk about others and their personal lives she does not hear those conversations.
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said this on 18 Aug 2010 11:08:54 PM CDT
Dayum is right. The social media sites give folks a false sense of security. People should watch what they post. I feel bad Susie, she's not a bad kid...she's lonely.
Pam, I think some children just 'get it' while some don't. Does it have something to do with them being raised around a lot of family and/or having good attentive parents? |
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said this on 20 Aug 2010 1:33:00 PM CDT
My personal policy is to never put anything on the internet I couldn't put on a billboard, it works pretty well for me. I'm teaching an Ethics class next quarter for paralegals and this is always one of my favorite subjects.
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