I’m sitting on a panel as I type this mini rant whose genesis was a full rant but I have neither the emotional nor mental capacity for all that jazz. The topics that driven me into blog retreat are the views of Andrea Dworkin, a radical feminist and writer best known for her criticism of pornography. And Cathy Young's statement “Intercourse is the pure, sterile, formal expression of men's contempt for women”. Wiki it, it’s all there.

I more than anyone dislike clips of someone’s statements being used against them because they can be taken out of context. So please, if you’re not already familiar with their views, feel free to read up on them before you form your opinion.

Long story short, I don’t like Cathy because, to put it plainly, she’s a world-class twat. And I dislike Andrea’s views because they’re too extreme and she contradicts herself on a number of occasions on very poignant topics, aka the very foundation of her arguments.

In one breath “All heterosexual sex is rape” and the other “I think both intercourse and sexual pleasure can and will survive equality…. Since the paradigm for sex has been one of conquest, possession, and violation, I think many men believe they need an unfair advantage, which at its extreme would be called rape. I do not think they need it.”

I smell a contradiction. Or do I?

I studied Andrea’s work in college and beyond. It took me a long time to work out what she meant by saying 'all men are rapists'. I thought she meant that ultimately all men are governed by their wanks and, given their hardwired predilection for violence, they’d inevitably rise up and sexually assault a female. It’s only fairly recently that I've learned that she meant the sheer act of penetration is, by definition, rape.

Okay, so that’s still fucking rubbish but not as bad as saying all men are rapist because give a lesbian a strap-on and she to can aspire to rape. Now the playing field is even!

But there still I have a problem. It’s easy to analyze various actions, sexual or otherwise, in a purely abstract context, without considering human feelings, the essence of what makes us people, or in these context women. My contention is that any woman (and indeed any man) can do whatever she wants sexually as long as it's adult and consenting.

I reject the notion that all heterosexual sex is rape. What makes it so? Penetration? Um, that defense reeks of dick envy if you ask me (and by reading this blog post, you did ask me!).

I don’t have dick envy. I rather like my cooter and take very good care of her. And I certainly reject anyone equating sexual intercourse with rape. One doesn’t parallel the other in any way shape or form.


Let me end this mini rant before I pull out my Domina ID and show out. Back to your regularly scheduled orgy....:)