Eight Reasons to Date a White Man: Feedback Time
- By Tracy Ames
- Published December 27, 2010
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Have you guys seen this post on Madame Noire? A follow writer pal brought it to my attention and I wanted your honest feedback.
I’m speechless and Greg is pissed. Actually, his rant went something like this:
“Who was the A*-muncher that wrote this? F*ing idiot! Stupid S*t like this is why Black men hate White men; they read this Bulls*t and blame the misconceptions on us. They’re no better than the gold-diggers who trap White men into marrying them.
Of course life is easier for us; we’re F*ing White! That doesn’t mean we’re going to treat you any better than a Black man. They’re setting themselves up, keep believing this S*t! They’d scream victim if a White man wrote ‘Date Black women because she’ll give it up if she thinks you’re worth a damn. They’re just happy you’re not Black! You can do no wrong—they’ll blame Black men regardless!’”
END RANT (only because I can’t recall the rest)
Here's the link to the original article but you can read it below.
8 Reasons to Date a White Man
September 27th, 2010 - By LaShaun Williams
I am married to a Black man—dark-skinned, 100 percent cocoa. To me, there is nothing more physically beautiful on this earth. Notice I said physically. Outside of that, there are plenty of more financially, intellectually and emotionally stable options. It’s time to taste the unknown. There are just too many—too many bright and beautiful single Black women waiting for their Black prince charming, only to see more and more of them riding off with their porcelain-skinned beauties.
My question is what are you waiting for—a baby and no ring? Black men are obviously seeing a lot in others they like. As an open-minded woman, I can tell you from experience some things about white are right. In no particular order, here are the reasons you should be giving vanilla a chance.
1. They open wide instead of down low
Gay White men tend to be more forthcoming about their sexuality with family and friends. The down low phenomenon is less prevalent, which preserves the battery usage on your gaydar and relieves the stress of dissecting every male relationship.
2. Not looking for someone to take care of them
Thanks to the absence of family, fathers and marriage in the Black community, a great number of our men have backward expectations when it comes to romantic relationships. A higher percentage of White men come from stronger family structures and more traditional gender roles, where the men seek to care for the women.
3. Attend and graduate from college
Black women are graduating from college and Black men continue to drop out. As a result, degrees become intimidating when dating Black men. In White culture, education is valued and expected. Thus, White men have no problem dating educated women with advanced degrees. It is impressive rather than intimidating.
4. At least attempt to marry before making babies
For whatever reason, White men just don’t have children sprinkled all over the world like Black men. And, if they do, most of them were married to the mother at some point. Sure, they divorce but you can only divorce if you at least attempt a marriage.
5. They don’t glamourize ignorance
They may listen to rap music, but they are smart enough not to act it out. The “thug life” is not something to be aspired. White men have a firmer grasp on what really defines manhood.
6. Financial planning and stability
Black people, especially men, are always trying to shine—often spending more money than they have. White men tend to be more educated in the area of finance with a greater understanding of retirement planning, savings, investments, etc. This is mostly due to a higher level of exposure and teaching, but all that matters is they know and make better decisions than Black men when it comes to managing money.
7. Have the ability to look beyond your past
Ever wonder why White people can date the friends of exes and so on? It’s because they don’t let the past hinder the present. Promiscuous Black men think they deserve to settle down with virgins, and allow past relationships to haunt the present. Not White men. They have no problem turning a hoe into a housewife.
8. Don’t take everything as a challenge to their masculinity
Intimidation and insecurity are two reasons for the rift between Black men and women. As a result of their insecurities and low self-esteem, Black men are intimidated by the strength of an educated and ambitious Black woman. Rather than seeing her as a strong teammate, she is a threat to their manhood. Thus, they feel the need to overcompensate. White men, on the other hand, are more secure. What Black men see as threatening is what makes a great wife and business partner to them.
Does anyone else get the feeling that LaShaun's Black husband has been wrongly done? After reading this article, did he feel like shit? Maybe I'm reading too much into this. I just feel bad for the guy. I'm opening the floor to you. Are these valid points? If so, are they the reasons you're attracted to White men? Just let me know what's on your mind.
I’m speechless and Greg is pissed. Actually, his rant went something like this:
“Who was the A*-muncher that wrote this? F*ing idiot! Stupid S*t like this is why Black men hate White men; they read this Bulls*t and blame the misconceptions on us. They’re no better than the gold-diggers who trap White men into marrying them.
Of course life is easier for us; we’re F*ing White! That doesn’t mean we’re going to treat you any better than a Black man. They’re setting themselves up, keep believing this S*t! They’d scream victim if a White man wrote ‘Date Black women because she’ll give it up if she thinks you’re worth a damn. They’re just happy you’re not Black! You can do no wrong—they’ll blame Black men regardless!’”
END RANT (only because I can’t recall the rest)
Here's the link to the original article but you can read it below.
8 Reasons to Date a White Man
September 27th, 2010 - By LaShaun Williams
I am married to a Black man—dark-skinned, 100 percent cocoa. To me, there is nothing more physically beautiful on this earth. Notice I said physically. Outside of that, there are plenty of more financially, intellectually and emotionally stable options. It’s time to taste the unknown. There are just too many—too many bright and beautiful single Black women waiting for their Black prince charming, only to see more and more of them riding off with their porcelain-skinned beauties.
My question is what are you waiting for—a baby and no ring? Black men are obviously seeing a lot in others they like. As an open-minded woman, I can tell you from experience some things about white are right. In no particular order, here are the reasons you should be giving vanilla a chance.
1. They open wide instead of down low
Gay White men tend to be more forthcoming about their sexuality with family and friends. The down low phenomenon is less prevalent, which preserves the battery usage on your gaydar and relieves the stress of dissecting every male relationship.
2. Not looking for someone to take care of them
Thanks to the absence of family, fathers and marriage in the Black community, a great number of our men have backward expectations when it comes to romantic relationships. A higher percentage of White men come from stronger family structures and more traditional gender roles, where the men seek to care for the women.
3. Attend and graduate from college
Black women are graduating from college and Black men continue to drop out. As a result, degrees become intimidating when dating Black men. In White culture, education is valued and expected. Thus, White men have no problem dating educated women with advanced degrees. It is impressive rather than intimidating.
4. At least attempt to marry before making babies
For whatever reason, White men just don’t have children sprinkled all over the world like Black men. And, if they do, most of them were married to the mother at some point. Sure, they divorce but you can only divorce if you at least attempt a marriage.
5. They don’t glamourize ignorance
They may listen to rap music, but they are smart enough not to act it out. The “thug life” is not something to be aspired. White men have a firmer grasp on what really defines manhood.
6. Financial planning and stability
Black people, especially men, are always trying to shine—often spending more money than they have. White men tend to be more educated in the area of finance with a greater understanding of retirement planning, savings, investments, etc. This is mostly due to a higher level of exposure and teaching, but all that matters is they know and make better decisions than Black men when it comes to managing money.
7. Have the ability to look beyond your past
Ever wonder why White people can date the friends of exes and so on? It’s because they don’t let the past hinder the present. Promiscuous Black men think they deserve to settle down with virgins, and allow past relationships to haunt the present. Not White men. They have no problem turning a hoe into a housewife.
8. Don’t take everything as a challenge to their masculinity
Intimidation and insecurity are two reasons for the rift between Black men and women. As a result of their insecurities and low self-esteem, Black men are intimidated by the strength of an educated and ambitious Black woman. Rather than seeing her as a strong teammate, she is a threat to their manhood. Thus, they feel the need to overcompensate. White men, on the other hand, are more secure. What Black men see as threatening is what makes a great wife and business partner to them.
Does anyone else get the feeling that LaShaun's Black husband has been wrongly done? After reading this article, did he feel like shit? Maybe I'm reading too much into this. I just feel bad for the guy. I'm opening the floor to you. Are these valid points? If so, are they the reasons you're attracted to White men? Just let me know what's on your mind.
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31 Responses to "Eight Reasons to Date a White Man: Feedback Time"
said this on 27 Dec 2010 7:39:24 AM CST
I read this about an hour ago and it's been on my mind since.
I was once in a biracial marriage - I'm white (WASP... lol about your other thread) and she's black. We share 5 beautiful carmel colored babies. Four of which I proudly fathered and raised myself from birth to school age. There aren't enough adjectives (http://www.deannacarlyle .com/articles/verb.html) to express my emotions about her article. I SO agree w/ Greg!!! I know I would've ranted about it for a long time. I know this because I have ranted on similar crap in the past. More importantly was your take on it. How did her husband feel after reading this? I know from personal experience that Mates can be clueless and insensitive at times. Especially when they are 'self involved'. I too, am disillusioned at her callous behavior while hoping he has a good spirit and laughs at her feeble attempt of insightfulness. |
said this on 27 Dec 2010 8:04:31 AM CST
Wow! As you probably know I teach a Black Experience In America class at a local college. I wish this woman was in the class. Honestly, she is attempting to broach a very complex issue with an extremely sophomoric analysis. She does herself, black woman as a whole, black and white men a disservice.
I hope she didn't get married in Connecticut. (*previous blog topic*) |
said this on 27 Dec 2010 1:12:54 PM CST
The thought does occur to me. She does have us talking. Maybe she is deliberately trying to be provacative...not just stupid.
Well, here's to hoping! |
said this on 27 Dec 2010 8:32:11 AM CST
Preach Adam preach!!! I wondered how White men (besides Greg) would react to her article so thank you for your insight. I can't imagine many of you would bask in its glory and praise because, seriously, it's difficult to feel good about yourself at the expense of others...especially when the humiliation is inflicted on those within your gender.
Think about it; what this writer has done is play into the fears of most WASPy (or White) mothers: Their sons being used by sneaky, whoring, self serving Black women. And this is to say nothing about the White men who’re looking at this with distain. Quoting my WASP post: In my opinion, people are people. Dating/marrying a White man can be different; not better or worse, simply different. Sad, your ex wasn’t open with you. Hate to see men (and women) being used. |
said this on 01 Jan 2011 1:39:54 AM CST
I think its great that Greg reacted the way that he did. Unfortunately, there are white men (or any group really) that would get off on being put on a pedestal at the expense of others. But clearly your guy isn't one of them. You have got a decent one Tracey, congrats! (not that you don't already know lol)
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said this on 27 Dec 2010 8:45:33 AM CST
Adam, I too thought the article was written by Lashaunda rather than Lashaun... LMAO it's a gay man's POV-ok I'm getting my thoughts down brb
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said this on 27 Dec 2010 9:05:03 AM CST
This grinds my gears. Where the hell does this lady live? Under a rock? Okay granted there are black men who fit this description, but certainly not all. You'll find deadbeats in every race so why generalize.
"They have no problem turning a hoe into a housewife." Really?! Really?! Come on Lady! That's just one of the many quotes that I find just wrong in this article. She is certainly glamorizing the white male race. I have no idea. If she thinks they're so great then why is her husband black? I do feel sorry for that poor guy. Is he the exception in all of this because she certainly didn't say so. I date white because that's what I'm physically attracted to. That's the first step. If I'm not physically attracted to him then I wouldn't know about all of the rest. I wouldn't know if he was financially stable and/or a good provider. Everything else falls into place after that. He could be handsome and a complete douche or he could be wealthy and just physically unappealing. If it's either of these descriptions then I don't want them. I don't go out saying "I'm going to snag me a white man because they're so reliable." A man can be kind, generous, and dependable not because of his race but because that's just his character. It's just who HE is! |
said this on 27 Dec 2010 9:11:27 AM CST
One other thing. This really upsets me because it makes Black women out to be gold diggers and possible whores.
That is all. I'm going to stop because my ears are smoking. |
said this on 27 Dec 2010 9:55:43 AM CST
Ok now I’m ready/ I HATE NARROW MINDED PEOPLE AND THEIR STUPID HOW TO/ADVICE ARTICLES. First off I do not expect a man; black or white to define who I am as a person. It’s been said that a relationship encompass two whole people, not two halves hoping to make a whole. (half ass men need not apply)
Every one of Lashan reasons to date a white man are the stereotypical, demeaning BS that some have carried as their scarlet notes wearing it for the world to see. Please!!!!! I find it hard to allow anyone, regardless of race or gender take care of me-that’s just me. Financial planning/stability now that gave me a good laugh-{my experience} the ex was unable to budget his money/saving he would always rely on mommy dearest and her saving to pull him out of his mess. I was the one that opened my son’s bank account, college fund and yes a life insurance policy on the ex-(my prays have yet to be answer); challenged his masculinity- I think I did that just about every day; ability to look beyond your past-he was incapable of doing that; attend and graduate from college-he did attended and graduated but made no use of his degree. I can go on but these are what they are, my personal experiences and I will not allow them to be the judge and juror of any other relationship(s) I enter (that wouldn’t be fair to me and/or my future partner). Adam I applaud you for taking care of your responsibilities because deadbeat fathers come in all colors (TA you gave me a headache!!!!) |
said this on 27 Dec 2010 11:31:01 AM CST
I remember reading this article awhile ago on the sweetest taboo. I thought who the helll is this chick? while yes some of the points she made do apply to some black men. It a very broad generalization and do not apply to all black men and that no white men fit in these catagories. She makes it seem like as black woman we should be excepting white to come rescue us. All they're good for is their bank accounts and great credit scores. Forget about things like love respect and compatibility. I don't blame 50Mill for being pissed. I get annoyed when black men try to say that it's better to date white woman because we are to loud , bossy and controlling. I won't deny that some black women can be those things. That does not apply us all. It' s also insulting to white women. It's like they are saying they have no backbone and will put up with whatever stupid bullshit black men throw at them.
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said this on 27 Dec 2010 12:14:55 PM CST
I had to get my thoughts together before I commented. I can’t decide where to begin.
3. Attend and graduate from college I own my company and I have several educated black men pulling my ass out of the sling daily! Intimidating?! Who is she intimidating? It seems like she's educated herself well enough to find a white man to marry but failed so she married a black man because she can’t stand on her own. She’s contradicting herself. 4. At least attempt to marry before making babies “White men just don’t have children sprinkled all over the world like Black men” WHAT? Yes we do! White men have second families. Does the author truly believe what she’s writing? If so, then she is insulting black mom by essentially saying black mens fails are attributed to their moms while white moms are pillars of virtue. I will address the other points later. Thanks for posting Tracy. |
said this on 27 Dec 2010 1:07:18 PM CST
Well I read this article some time ago and thought it was pretty narrow minded and would hate to be her husband or kids. It does add fuel to the fire of the black man vs. white man "stuff". I am married to a successful black man who has to deal with this kind of bullshit of he should fit some sterotype in someone's head. He generally wears a suit everyday and it is surprising the number of people who ask him if he is a preacher or "jokingly" even a pimp...both black and white and even kids. He is a very conservative dresser so none of his clothes would qualify for "pimpwear", whatever that is. We both wonder how many white men in suits get asked this kind of question on sometimes a weekly basis. It is really sad and articles like this don't help. As I said, I am married to a black man and I can't say I have ever dated a white man. Although once I found the IR genre I fell in love with the stories(mostly due to the great female writers I think), I've never been been overly attracted to white men. I would hope people would date or marry someone they are attracted to and compatible with for a lifetime. I can't say I have ever looked for someone to take care of me but I would say that all the black men I have dated in the past were capable and even came from two parent homes...go figure. They've all pretty much made great husbands for other women, but just weren't for me for a lifetime. When I read this article I remember thinking we as black women have to do better and stop stereotypying black men so much and give others a chance not because they are "better" but just because who knows. I also thought we(black women) have got to stop thinking if he ain't hard/thug he must be gay/downlow. This article also reminds me of a joke I heard on the radio...black radio. A black man takes a woman on a picnic and he's broke. A white man takes a woman on a picnic and he's so romantic.
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said this on 27 Dec 2010 4:40:33 PM CST
Wowzers! I am speechless! I may have to come back and leave a comment. At the moment I am stunned.
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said this on 27 Dec 2010 6:07:28 PM CST
I had no words the first time I read this, and I still can't manage many that are fit to print the second time around. Perhaps the third time will be the charm....
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said this on 27 Dec 2010 9:33:23 PM CST
Wow, this article is crazy. Although there are black men that fit the description she provided she seems to be comparing the stereotype to what she feels is the ideal white man. What's crazy is that she talks so bad about black men and how they are the lowest of the low yet she's dating a black man who she only loves in a physical sense. It sounds to me as if she's a bitter, ignorant, uneducated woman (a term I use loosely) who doesn't have enough self worth to go out and get someone who treats her with respect regardless of what color they are. She's as much a stereotype as the black men she describes. What BS.
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said this on 28 Dec 2010 12:32:16 AM CST
I read this article a while back and reading it for the second time, I still think it's funny. The article is funny to me because all of the reasons in this article are stereotypes. The only thing I can say is that if anyone is using these reasons to start dating white men they should get out more. There isn't a guideline as to why you should date a man of any ethnicity.
For me, I have been attracted to white men. From elementary school until now. Why? I don't know, it's just the way I'm wired. Am I attracted to white men because of the reasons listed in the article? Hell no! I know white men that contradict each of her 8 reasons for dating a white man. I feel sorry for her husband if these are her true feelings because that means she doesn't think too highly of him. smh |
said this on 28 Dec 2010 4:39:48 AM CST
I find it funny and pathetic how she has a disclaimer right at the beginning before she gets to her hit piece. As if though saying, look I'm dark and a black man deemed me pretty enough without being stuck on shadeism/colorism. Her article is tame compared to the usual crap I read about IR and I don't know why anyone would find it offensive. Besides, no offense is intended, but why would your hubby care what black men think of him, its not like they are the gatekeepers of black women and whom they decide to shag or marry.
About your question of this being a valid point, 1-4 is true if we are dispensing with nonsensical political correctness that is killing black women. I have no intention of bringing the mess that exist when it comes to the black community in our countries on here, but we all know the 70% fatherless black children, 42% black men in prison, down low black men who marry black women and father children mainly due to the strong homophobia in our cultures....etc....etc. Suffice to say, life long fulfilling partner and finding it should be the key, not what race he comes by. |
said this on 28 Dec 2010 4:06:10 PM CST
OMG Tracy, you haven't seen this it was out awhile back and good lord it caused a 'Thunderdome' over at Madame Noire. And all over some blogs. This chick did not do any black woman who is dating/mating/marrying white men any dang favors. It was ridiculous and set us back. The fact is she's married to a black man, I have no idea why she wrote this silly article. I'm still wondering what she thinking and on her blog she still seems to defending the indefensible.
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said this on 28 Dec 2010 4:40:33 PM CST
Oh and to answer the remainder of the question, the reason I like white men is specific to me and who I am. I've always been attracted to white guys since 2nd grade, my first crush that did for me. We usually have more in common and it's not like I don't find other men attractive, I do I am not claiming to be blind. But there's something about white guys that really does it for me, usually when people ask that question my running sarcastic/jokey remark is 'it's their freckles and soft hair' LOL. We all have something we have find attractive b/c although I love white men, not all white men do it for me so even at another level, it has to be something more. But I don't like stereotypes and because I wouldn't appreciate someone writing an article about me as bw and filling it with stereotypes, I can't condone someone writing an article about wm and filling it with stereotypes even positive ones. Because let's be truthful not all wm are great and throwing rose colored glasses on bw saying that white men are going to be Captain Sav-a-Garden Tools is unfair to them.
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said this on 28 Dec 2010 5:17:19 PM CST
Ok. I Got To #3 And I Could Not Read Anymore Of This MESS!!! Goodness Where Do I Start. Such A Double Standard!! Why Is It Ok For Us As African Americans To Steroetype One Another But When Another Race Does It To Us We Go On A Damn Tangy!! This Is The Most Idiotic Crap I Have Ever Read, And Believe Me I've Read Lots. I Agree With Greg In His Statement Referring To The Reason Why Black Men Hate Whitemen Because Of Crap Like This Not Only Being Written By Black Women But Being Quoted As Well. I Am A Black Women Who Happens To Be Engaged To A Caucasian Man. Race Hasn't A Damn Thing To Do With It. He Completes Me. As I Complete Him. Our Hearts Chose Each Other. If He Were Green, Purple, Black, Or White That Would Not Matter In The Least Because He Is The One Made For Me And I For Him. I Believe This Is Just Another Bitter Woman Who Happens To Be Black That Has Made Some Horrible Choices In Men Who Happened To Have Been Black. Whose Now Sadly Looping All Brothers Into This Catagory. I Have Four Brothers And Several Close Black Male Friends All Of Whom Or Very Dedicated Men To Their Communities, Church, Families, Wives, And Children, And Also Are College Educated And Very Successful. We As Society Need To Really Start Living The Dream That We Preach So Much About To Our Children, And Realize That Love Knows No Color. Also Color Isn't An Issue When It Comes To Matters Of The Heart. I Could Say So Much More On This, But I Would Be Here All Night.
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said this on 29 Dec 2010 12:45:25 AM CST
I too read this awhile ago on TST. I think it's utter HORSE shit. But the article wasn't the most disgustingly offensive thing for me. It was the "discussion" (or more like knock down, drag out, dirty street war) in the 1,366 comments following, which was basically really, REALLY sad, disheartening and very depressing. And I barely even skimmed them all. Jumping ahead every two pages, reading every 35th word, and it still almost made me want to cry.
Um...where to start? Actually, I'll just state why I tend to dig white dudes. For as long as I can remember I've always crushed on the white boys in my classes, while growing up, since preschool. I think they're cute. It's about as simple as that. I also happen to think black guys are cute too, and latin guys, and asian guys, and arab guys. Basically, I'm kinda like Big Pun. I regulate every shade of that ass. Lmao. But seriously though, I have no false delusions about white men, and in fact, I loathe that whole "white knight" delusion many black women seem to have and perpetuate to other black women about white men. I'm all for black women opening up their options, but not at the expense of truth and rationality and black men. Why can't we just dig white dudes or asian dudes or latin dudes because they're cute? Why must it be weighted with all this other garbage!?!? It's LUDICROUS!!! Ugh, I'm done! I'm getting a stomachache. |
said this on 29 Dec 2010 9:40:41 PM CST
Are you people kidding me?!
This article hit the nail on the 'proverbial' head. It pretty much says what black women are truly thinking. Well, the ones who have the cojones to admit it. Personally I am tired of the 'black' jargon. The hole ghetto lingo, the chip on the shoulder, and of course the 'man' is keeping me down crap. As a conservative, black chick it is very hard for me to even have intelligent dialogue with a black man who disagrees with my social and political views. My views are not respected, but criticized as a 'sell out'. Therefore I date white men who respects my differences and and celebhrates my strength as a black woman. You folks can jump on the band wagon all you want but I absoluutely AGREE that black men...they are just not worth the effort anymore...I am not going to do their mama's job and teach them the basics!!! Just saying..... |
said this on 29 Dec 2010 9:44:23 PM CST
BTW...Greg, get a grip!!
Why should you care what anyone thinks? Treat your wife the way you are and hopefully these black guys will learn a thing or two... Brava Tracy!! Brava!! |
said this on 30 Dec 2010 6:25:25 AM CST
Lala, Tracy won’t tell you this because she’s the nice sister but you need to hear it. Whether your statements steam from your childhood or other traumatic experiences, the simple true is you sound like a damn fool and someone along the way should have told you so. You and black women such as yourself are a disgrace to all black women. Your womanly strength is errant bullshit, which makes you and your kind look weak and pathetic because you rely on the worship of others to authenticate their worth. Without their assurance, who would affirm that you’re better than other black women because everyone knows white men only go for the crème de la crème of black women?
I would have been more impressed if you’d been honest and said ‘I date white men because they make me feel good about myself’. But you took the punk road. Your illusions of supremacy are based on your ignorant assertion that you have to tear down a black man to justify your choice to date outside of your race. I only need look so far as my family to know your delusions regarding black men are born of low self esteem and malevolent bitterness. As a woman, you should be ashamed of yourself and thank god you didn’t trick a man like Greg into marrying you, though I doubt his kin would allow you to step one foot in their house. It’s laughable, really. You may have a pinch of second rate education and airs but you’re a work of fiction. You're so cute trying to be more than you are! Please!! Real men want real women. And real women wake up beside their partners, not their puppets. So take your puppet prince. No one else wants his dumbass. Tracy won’t allow me to go the fuck off on you but know this: If you ever address my brother in-law again, you’ll deal with me. “Greg, get a grip” Bitch, I should choke you! |
said this on 30 Dec 2010 6:41:58 AM CST
LMAO Pam C, May I have permission to get on your band wagon? the wheels have fallen off of mine!!! (You said it)
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said this on 30 Dec 2010 4:55:27 PM CST
Yowza Pam C, you're my kind of kin. What a great can of verbal whoop-ass you opened up on this chick.
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said this on 30 Dec 2010 2:30:28 AM CST
Ms. Lala,
We all have the right/freedom to express our views tastefully and respectfully, therefore here is my opinion to your comment. Sometimes there’s something about us that attracts certain people towards us, there is something that is attracting the black man who are about “the black jargon, whole ghetto lingo, chip on the shoulder, and the ‘man’ is keeping me down” mentality towards you. I choose to surround myself with successful, same minded people which include a great number of black men. For you to throw all black men into the stereotypical BS salad bowl speaks a lot about you (your past, present and future) as a person. I’m glad you found your great white hope because there will never be a black man good enough for you, you’re so high on your pedestal, all you would /could do is find fault in him. So I’m happy you found a man, willing and able to “respect your differences and celebrate your strength as a black woman” I only hope you show him as much respect and celebration of himself as he shows you. And BTW can you please shine some light on my ignorance! What did Greg say which requires him to “get a grip” like you he has a right to voice his opinion. Thanks for your comment Lala, hope to see you again. Great discussion TA |
said this on 30 Dec 2010 1:38:38 PM CST
Okay I asked permission before I posted this so here goes.. What the hell is wrong with this broad? Why the hell would you marry a Black man and the list every reason why you shouldn't have. I read the many reponses to this piece of shit and all of the are intelligent and thought provoking. I on the onter hand want to find this chick and slap her back to a KKK meeting. There are the white men she seeks. They hate Black men almost as much as she does. According to her, White men don't cheat, they don't lie, they aren't in the closet. the are all financially solvent and they treat us better than Black men. These are the same race of Men from which we are all fathered. The monsters she speak so poorly of are the same men that fought for our rights as humans. These so called horrible men are the same men that stood in front of enslavers to protect their families. This silly bitch had the audacity to claim she loves them. Die Bitch.. We don't need your kind.
I am a woman that has dated all races and I married a biracial man. But guess what? I didn't choose him based on his race, I chose him based on him. White men and Black men die every damn damn day protecting us. I Fighting for us. We don't need any more fucking divisiveness between us. Shit, If I could I would find this chick and introduce her to my world. My world is in techni-color. I exist in the rainbow coalition. I have formed a bond with some of these ladies on this site and because of that I tend to be a little over protective of them. so their fights become mine, but this shit right here is MY fight. If Black men are so bad, move Bitch and get out of the way. This country is being driven by one. If anything I said offended you, then you probably don't want to speak to me about this subject face to face, because I would verbally assasinate you. I am viscious and quick when it comes to the defense of Black men. My Grandaddy, My Daddy, My brother, and My son. I will stand in front of them to protect them and stand beside to protect our youth and stand behind them to hold them up when they need me. Get your mind right chick, before you wake up and the Black man you claim you love so much has left you for...another Black woman. And the White men that you somehow worship won't have you because you don't really respect the beauty of your own race. Why would any man, Black or White want a self-loathing female? My name is Nalo and I approved this message... |
said this on 31 Dec 2010 1:40:26 AM CST
Wow...just wow!! I am completely disheartened that someone that has the capacity to string together coherent sentences would waste time and effort on bullshit like this. It is antagonistic, idiotic, and basically just...just...I'm getting hot right now so I'm going to leave it at that. When are we going to get out of these self imposed "utopias" where the other side is always better than what we have. People are people and they will do you dirty if that is their nature and they will respect and value you for the individual you are if that is their nature. Perpetuating trite stereotypes limits us as individuals and as a society. I think I'm going to have my husband read it now so we can get worked up together;) I'm sure he'll come out with his favorite line, "Why do people keep thinking I'm the one with everything. You make more money than me."
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