My Very First Piece of Hate Mail!!
- By Tracy Ames
- Published July 5, 2009
Tracy Ames
Mrs. Ames is an international bestselling author of interracial erotic fiction and a former columnist for several newsletters and magazines.
A native of the San Francisco Bay Area, Tracy currently split time between CT & New York City with her husband, children and a host of pets.
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Hello Everyone,
Well Tracy Ames, that would be me, has made it to the big time!! Yep I got my very first piece of “hate mail”. Yes, I’ll wait while you dry your tears of joy and digest that nugget of scrumptious information. You better now? Okay, let’s continue.
Many of you readers also belong to my MySpace friends list which gives you the ability to see my personal photo albums. Now, my ‘friends list’ contains real friends as well as individuals who may have sent or received a friends request. This is the genesis of this diatribe.
***All names have been changed to protect the identity of the inexplicably stupid***
I received an email from “Bob” who, after being added to my friends list, flipped through my photo albums and was aghast to find that most of the men in my albums were White with sisters and it gave the appearance that once a Black family aspired to a certain level in society, the ladies would then crossed over to dating White men. As if that wasn’t a chest-clincher in itself, he also had a problem with most of my friends being White (see my Swiss and Random albums).
I had a mixed bag of reactions: irritation, shock, a bit of fear, but more so the urge to leap into virtual verbal combat with my unknown assailant. Alas, I choose to take the high road.
I kindly pointed out to him that if he looked closely, our family is very diverse and that some of the Black men were with non-Black women, it's about who we fall in love with not their ethnic background. I then told him that, while Switzerland is very Anglo, I did have Black friends while living there....it just so happen that none of them are in the pictures I have currently posted. And as far as the photos in my Random album are concerned, those are very personal photos and those pictured are my closed friends and family. I rarely let anyone that close to me however, in an attempting to open up to my readers, I allowed them to see my daily life and inner circle (chocked-full Black people). Surely he missed all of those photos in his racially fueled Man rage.
Anyway, I was polite but he still lost it on me. “I'm a sellout. I married White man because I hate Black men. I only write about White men because I'm profiting from confused Black women, giving them false hopes that an equal interracial relationship exist. I think that I'm better than everyone.”-----and on and on with rubbish of that nature.
You all know me by now so you know what happened next. I served his bollocks back to him on a cold platter. I’m not going into graphic details because if nothing else, I’m a classy bitch. However I will say this……Ladies, I did you proud!!
So bring on the hate mail you narcissistic mouth breathing knuckle-draggers. The truth of the matter is that you never stood a snowballs chance in hell with a Real Woman…much less a Real Sister. It had nothing to do with the color of your skin so much as content of your character. In short, who you are as a person sucks balls. Its 2009, we have a Black President! Step your game up because this is getting tiresome.
Now, I’m going to have my first piece of hate mail framed.
Rant Over…..
Well Tracy Ames, that would be me, has made it to the big time!! Yep I got my very first piece of “hate mail”. Yes, I’ll wait while you dry your tears of joy and digest that nugget of scrumptious information. You better now? Okay, let’s continue.
Many of you readers also belong to my MySpace friends list which gives you the ability to see my personal photo albums. Now, my ‘friends list’ contains real friends as well as individuals who may have sent or received a friends request. This is the genesis of this diatribe.
***All names have been changed to protect the identity of the inexplicably stupid***
I received an email from “Bob” who, after being added to my friends list, flipped through my photo albums and was aghast to find that most of the men in my albums were White with sisters and it gave the appearance that once a Black family aspired to a certain level in society, the ladies would then crossed over to dating White men. As if that wasn’t a chest-clincher in itself, he also had a problem with most of my friends being White (see my Swiss and Random albums).
I had a mixed bag of reactions: irritation, shock, a bit of fear, but more so the urge to leap into virtual verbal combat with my unknown assailant. Alas, I choose to take the high road.
I kindly pointed out to him that if he looked closely, our family is very diverse and that some of the Black men were with non-Black women, it's about who we fall in love with not their ethnic background. I then told him that, while Switzerland is very Anglo, I did have Black friends while living there....it just so happen that none of them are in the pictures I have currently posted. And as far as the photos in my Random album are concerned, those are very personal photos and those pictured are my closed friends and family. I rarely let anyone that close to me however, in an attempting to open up to my readers, I allowed them to see my daily life and inner circle (chocked-full Black people). Surely he missed all of those photos in his racially fueled Man rage.
Anyway, I was polite but he still lost it on me. “I'm a sellout. I married White man because I hate Black men. I only write about White men because I'm profiting from confused Black women, giving them false hopes that an equal interracial relationship exist. I think that I'm better than everyone.”-----and on and on with rubbish of that nature.
You all know me by now so you know what happened next. I served his bollocks back to him on a cold platter. I’m not going into graphic details because if nothing else, I’m a classy bitch. However I will say this……Ladies, I did you proud!!
So bring on the hate mail you narcissistic mouth breathing knuckle-draggers. The truth of the matter is that you never stood a snowballs chance in hell with a Real Woman…much less a Real Sister. It had nothing to do with the color of your skin so much as content of your character. In short, who you are as a person sucks balls. Its 2009, we have a Black President! Step your game up because this is getting tiresome.
Now, I’m going to have my first piece of hate mail framed.
Rant Over…..
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14 Responses to "My Very First Piece of Hate Mail!!" 
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said this on 06 Jul 2009 8:21:35 AM CDT
Awwwwwww!. Ignorance is so universal, no?
Am no fan by the way of all these sites that let strangers into one's privacy. I respect the telephone any form of transport and bars to get my socialising on! |
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said this on 06 Jul 2009 11:18:27 AM CDT
LOL! Yes, ignorance is universal. For some men to still be shouting the same old absurd rhetoric in this day and age is baffling. Seriously, if they’re going to throw stones they should at least up something original. Two thumbs up, way to rise the bar guys!
And you are absolutely right about the social media sites letting strangers into one's privacy. However, it’s a necessary evil given my chosen profession. But I love corresponding with my readers; you guys are incredible and keep me motivated. I guess if I want roses, I have to take the thorns. |
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said this on 06 Jul 2009 8:09:52 PM CDT
Wow!!! I almost have no words to say to such stupidity. Almost LOL!! First off you're right we fall in love with the person not the color and how come people feel so threaten by mixing the the race. This guys is just plain dumb why the heck would ask someone to be there friend and then pick apart your friends and then tell you about it. He should of left that crap to himself. Ok I am done lol
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said this on 06 Jul 2009 10:08:26 PM CDT
Well said! I couldn't begin to understand how an interracial relationship threatens others. People's ability to lean towards the adsurd never cease to amaze me. What I've found alarming is that there're still people who feel this way. Doesn't the weight of carrying around all that hatred become tiresome?
I honestly think he befriended me on MySpace simply to chastise me for not taking the conventional route of writing. What he failed to realize was he was talking to an adult not a child. I bet he won’t make that mistake twice. I felt insulted...but not only for myself! I felt as though he was insulting every female who dared to step outside of her race. Black, White or whatever. |
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said this on 06 Jul 2009 11:55:37 PM CDT
Unbelievable. It's crazy how black men claim we give them a hard time for dating outside of their race yet when we do we are sellouts, hate black men, etc. A lot of us don't even care when they date outside of their race, that's just stereotypes making us out to be close-minded and bigoted. And for those of us who are open-minded enough to date outside of our race when we meet someone we like, then we're labeled as confused or ashamed of our race. I know plenty of blacks who date outside of their race because of self loathing, but that clearly isn't the case with you. This guy was just way out of line and obviously very insecure. Now sure what is up with these insecure guys but they should all be shipped off to an island and left to cope survivor style.
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said this on 07 Jul 2009 9:33:50 AM CDT
Well put. I'll buy the Survivor boat if you paddle..:)
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said this on 07 Jul 2009 12:53:20 AM CDT
Tracy welcome to the club. Finally!!! At least you were a lady about it. I get this shit almost everyday. My husband gets upset, i just ignore it. Happy Graduation!!!!( joking). I'm black, my boo is Indian, go figure!
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said this on 07 Jul 2009 9:52:57 AM CDT
Thank you very much Heidi. I have my hate mail framed and hanging on my office wall as motivation. I keep a pretty level head about these things and it takes a lot to push me over the edge. But this guy deserved what he got. Tell your man to calm down. My husband, Greg, used to get upset but not any longer. We chalk it up as shaken baby syndrome
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said this on 07 Jul 2009 11:07:40 AM CDT
Girl, I'm almost on the floor in laughter! I love to see off the wall comments like that. It's crazy that he would take the time to flip through "most" of the pictures only to blast them. He must have been "bored".
As T-Pain put it "I love my hater's because they are motivation for me to keep doing what I do." As a fellow I/R writer and equal opportunity dater you know you have my support! Well now it's time for me to get back to the world of writing. Gotta love those edits! |
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said this on 07 Jul 2009 12:05:19 PM CDT
Stephanie, "Bored" is an understatement. Have you seen all the pictures I have out there? I just realized how many there were yesterday, it's a ton. He had to be sipping Haterade between albums.
BTW, who's T-Pain? Don't get me started on edits. |
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said this on 07 Jul 2009 5:19:40 PM CDT
OMG Tracy!!!, even my husband knows T-pain. LOL. He is a hip hop artist.
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said this on 07 Jul 2009 5:52:24 PM CDT
Ooohhh, yeah...sorry still don't know who he is. My daughter downloaded some guy named "Dollar" to mobile now everytime my phone rings in public it says "Who the f**k is that?" People tend to stare but I can't take it off! Appearently you have to be Dan Brown to decipher the DaVinci code that is my iPhone.
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said this on 07 Jul 2009 10:14:58 PM CDT
LMAO! Olga, you nailed it. It one thing to have those types of beliefs but it's unacceptable to chastise others for sharing those views. One email I could have forgiven but he's comments on the second email were simply insulting across the board. I doubt I'll be hearing much from "Dr. Dumb-Dumb" anytime soon.
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said this on 09 Jul 2009 2:36:56 AM CDT
It's not surprising, MySpace is Facebook without college degrees. There are morons on facebook too, but MySpace vs Facebook feels like the Morlocks vs. the Elois now.
Of course this guy had an inferiority complex and probably just wanted to "know" you no matter who you were married to. If your husband were black and wealthy he still probably would have had something to say about it, but it would have made him a little less insecure. And you don't have to have black friends either lol. The problem with America is that it's too segregated, not that it's not segregated enough. People like this are the same ones that complain about things not being equal and tensions with white people and then...make that problem last another generation by not interracially dating or even friending. |
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